Venue hire starts from £4,650 for off-peak dates. Pricing varies by day of the week, time of year and the package selected. All pricing is shown live on our online availability checker — every available date displays its hire cost clearly, so you can plan your budget with confidence from the very start.

Your hire includes exclusive use of the entire Selden Barns estate from 9:00am, access to all three ceremony spaces, the main wedding barn with fairy lights and chandeliers, the walled garden, outdoor terrace, your dedicated getting ready room, the mahogany bar, and all outdoor areas. Your dedicated wedding coordinator is also included — supporting you throughout planning and managing the day itself, so you can relax and be fully present.

Yes. Every couple at Selden Barns is assigned their own dedicated wedding coordinator from the moment you book. They will guide you through every detail of your planning — from supplier bookings and timings to table plans and ceremony arrangements — and will be on site throughout your wedding day to ensure everything unfolds exactly as you imagined.

Absolutely — and we would love to welcome you. You can book a personal tour at a time that suits you, or join one of our Wedding Open Evenings to explore the venue and meet the team. Seeing the barns, the gardens and the South Downs views in person is the best way to fall in love with Selden Barns.

The getting ready room and wider venue are available to your wedding party from 9:00am. The bar closes at 11:30pm, the DJ finishes at 11:45pm, and we ask that all guests depart by midnight. That is a full 15 hours of celebration — from a relaxed morning getting ready right through to a midnight finish.

You have two main options for your top table — the traditional straight top table or a more relaxed round top table. Both have their advantages.

Straight Top Table

Allows all guests to see the newlyweds easily throughout the meal. Works beautifully in a formal setting.

Round Top Table

A more informal option, particularly suited to couples with family structures that do not conform to the traditional layout. Creates a more intimate feel around the top table.

Away from the top table, guests traditionally sit at round tables, with families positioned closest to the newlyweds. Remember — it is your day and you should seat people exactly as you wish.

Traditionally, the newlyweds and both sets of parents greet friends and family as they enter the room for the Wedding Breakfast. This is a lovely opportunity for the couple to speak to every guest at least once during the day.

That said, this is entirely optional. Many couples today choose instead to move around the tables during the meal, spending time at each one. It is your day — do whatever feels most natural to you.

When all guests are comfortably at their tables, the Best Man will invite everyone to stand to receive the newlyweds. The happy couple then take their places at the top table, guests are seated, and the Wedding Breakfast is served. Background music during this time helps guests settle and sets a relaxed, joyful atmosphere.

There are traditionally three wedding speeches, delivered in the following order. That said, we know tradition does not suit everyone and we are completely flexible:

1. Father of the Bride
2. The Groom
3. Best Man

Speeches are usually delivered at the end of the meal or between the main course and dessert. A flute of bubbly will be delivered to each guest just before the speeches begin. Your wedding coordinator will prompt the first speaker. A microphone is available to use.

At Selden Barns, we like to wait until evening guests have arrived before the wedding cake is cut — around 7:45pm. This makes evening guests feel genuinely part of the celebration rather than just a later addition.

The DJ or Best Man will announce the cake cutting and invite everyone to gather forward. After the symbolic cut, the cake is taken away and portioned up to be served alongside the evening food.

Yes! You can book a live band, a DJ, or both. A live band is permitted at Selden Barns; we do have noise management guidelines that we share with all entertainment suppliers ahead of your wedding day.

We prefer bands and DJs to set up on the morning of your wedding day where possible. Do also remember that your band, DJ and photographers will appreciate being fed during the day — this can be arranged directly with your caterer.

The wedding favour tradition originates from Italy, where they were known as ‘Bomboniere’ — five sugar-coated almonds symbolising health, wealth, happiness, long life and fertility.

Today, favours can be anything you like — personalised chocolates, homemade biscuits, miniature bottles, seed packets, or anything that reflects you as a couple. They are completely optional, and many modern couples choose to make a donation to charity instead. If you wish to offer alcoholic favours, please discuss this with your coordinator.

Accommodation is available to book as an addition to your venue hire and is very popular — rooms are often reserved early alongside the most sought-after wedding dates. We recommend booking rooms for your wedding party and immediate family as soon as possible. Your wedding coordinator will be happy to assist with accommodation as part of your planning.

Yes — there are a range of hotels, B&Bs and self-catering options in the nearby towns of Worthing, Arundel and Littlehampton, all within a short drive of Selden Barns. We will provide a curated list of local accommodation recommendations for your guests once your wedding is booked.

Selden Barns is located at 146 Selden Lane, Patching, West Sussex, BN13 3UL, and is easily accessible by car via the A27 and A280. We have ample free on-site parking for all guests.

For guests travelling by public transport, the nearest train stations are Durrington-on-Sea and Angmering (both approximately 3 miles away and served by Southern and Thameslink coastal services). We recommend pre-booking local taxis for guests arriving by train. A full guest travel guide will be included in your planning documentation once your wedding is booked.