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A very beautiful venue

Thanks for everything. A few words…

A very beautiful venue, that made everyone feel it was a real treat. Great management of the day- thank you, it ran very smoothly, everything was sorted and taken care of- even with last minute changes for a big event. The afternoon activities really got everyone up to mingle and get involved- with something for everyone. The food was exceptional and we’ve since had lots of lovely comments on the food and puddings (!), and the day as a whole. So, thank you very much, it was the day we all needed and much more.

Laura

What an amazing team!

The team at Selden Barns is beyond amazing, we’d like to particularly thank Sairose, Nicki and Andy for making our wedding so magical. Andy provided us with such a wonderful breakfast the morning of and the morning after our wedding and was so funny and welcoming. Nothing was ever too much for Nicki or Sairose, they both honestly went above and beyond throughout the whole planning process and the wedding itself. Everything was so seamless on the day that we honestly didn’t have to worry about anything. We had regular planning meetings to run through everything, and this ensured we hadn’t forgotten any little details. They were there through every moment, and we honestly can’t thank them enough! We will be going back there to celebrate many future anniversaries.

Aimee & Tommy

Wedding date, 29.05.2025

Aimee & Tommy

Wedding day so incredible

December wedding

We just wanted to take a moment to express our heartfelt thanks for everything you did to make our wedding day so incredible. The venue looked absolutely stunning, and we received so many lovely compliments from our guests about what a beautiful location it was.

A special thank you to Saoirse, Nicki, and the team at breakfast the next morning, apologies, I can’t remember the names of the two gentlemen (one gentleman was particularly funny and added a lovely touch to breakfast) you were all so accommodating, friendly and nothing was too much trouble. It’s clear to see you all enjoy your work.

You all went above and beyond to make our day and the following morning so memorable, and we are so grateful for everything.

Mr and Mrs P

Jack P. Married on 06/12/2024

Delivered on every level.

We can’t recommend Selden Barns enough. Nicki, Ben and their team delivered on every level. From the first visit to the big day itself we were swept away by the dedication, kindness and professionalism. Nicki’s eye for detail and ability to liaise with all the different suppliers was fantastic. They ran the actual day itself like clockwork and with smiles on their faces at all times. It so good to deal with people who clearly enjoy their job. Thank you to everyone at the stunning Selden Barns for making our big day that little bit more special.

Dom G

December 2024

Dom G

Amazing night we had at Selden Barns

I just wanted to send a note to say what an amazing night we had at Selden Barns for the Michael Jones/Brand Vaughan staff Christmas party, the venue was beautifully decorated and the staff were friendly and efficient. From the planning to the attention to detail to make everything extra special for us and of course looking after us on the evening Nicki has been wonderful, we will definitely be back… thank you for having us.

Emma Isaac, Ops Director, Michael Jones & Brand Vaughan

We would highly recommend this venue to anyone!

It’s difficult to know where to start writing this, as my new wife and I had the most amazing experience working with the team at Selden barns and the venue it’s self. We utilised Selden barns for our drinks reception, wedding breakfast, evening celebrations and accommodation. We had our ceremony at a local church, however, there are two beautiful spaces to have a ceremony at Selden barns.
Nicki and her team were beyond fantastic, from greeting us from our first visit, multiple meetings during the run up, coordinating with suppliers and creating and executing the perfect timeline. All of this making our wedding run smoothly on the day. They were faultless! We couldn’t have asked for anymore.
The venue itself was beautifully laid out. A large grass area for us to have an outdoor drinks reception, with lots of shade in case it’s too hot. When it was time for confetti and our wedding breakfast, Nicki and her team expertly handled guiding our guests to exactly where they needed to be.
For the breakfast we had 12 tables plus the top table, there was space for more if we needed. There is a large bar which was utilised by all, as it was a very hot day, our guests weren’t waiting for more than a few minutes before being served drinks. There is a wide selection of soft and alcoholic drinks.
The dedicated dance floor was a big hit with our evening guests, who spent the majority of their time busting some questionable moves.
There is an outside covered seating area with heaters, if needed, which is adjacent to the dance floor with lovely seats with cushions on.
I could go on and on about the superb service we received but I’ll stop there.
We cannot thank Nicki, Ben and the other staff enough for a fantastic day. We would highly recommend this venue to anyone!

July 2024

We made a great choice in choosing Selden Barns as a wedding venue.

We didn’t know about Selden Barns, but our daughter and her fiancé found it on the internet when searching for wedding venues in Sussex. We booked in for a visit and fell in love with the setting. We received a warm welcome and a helpful guided tour of the venue. We soon booked it as the venue for the wedding!
We had a series of helpful planning meetings with Selden Barns between the time of booking and the wedding day. The meetings gave us the confidence that “the big day” would go smoothly and be the special occasion it should be.

On the day of the wedding, the Selden Barns team were superb. In particular, Saoirse and Ben were fantastic. From the moment we arrived at 9 am to the time the evening event wrapped up at midnight they were on hand to make sure everything went well and, at the same time, were in no way intrusive. A perfect balance. And they even arranged for the sun to shine in October!
I have no hesitation in recommending Selden Barns as a wedding venue. The setting, the facilities and the team were perfect. Thank you for your key role in what was a wonderful occasion.

Phil & Alison A

fantastic venue and staff

Nicki and her team were absolutely amazing from the first viewing to the last minute of our wedding day. offering guidance through the whole process. from a very relaxed bride who had a very laid back attitude nicki and her team still made sure we had everything we needed and more. the venue itself is beautiful and well spaced with plenty of room but also spaced perfectly for a smaller ceremony and guests. we loved every second of our weekend there. also if you’re staying over night the breakfast was superb food was fresh including fruit with unlimited tea coffee and soft drinks. definitely a venue to consider for your perfect day

Nicole L.

Amazing place

We couldn’t be more grateful to celebrate our wedding in this venue. From the first moment we saw it, we fell in love with it. This venue offers everything you could want—ceremonies indoors or outdoors in the fresh air, rooms to stay in after the festivities, and simply a fantastic reception room. The small lights played big role in the decoration. You don’t need large decorations to make this place the best for your wedding.

The surroundings of the venue are like a fairy tale—fresh air, hills, horses, and meadows are something special that will stay in our hearts forever.

The venue offers rooms for the bride and groom to dress and prepare for the big day.

Our biggest thanks go to Nicki, Saoirse, and Ben. From the first communication to the end of the big day, all these people were wonderful. All our questions were answered, we were kept informed throughout, and everything was explained. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

We couldn’t imagine celebrating our big day anywhere else. THANK YOU SELDEN BARNS.

Married on 14/09/2024

Madara J

An absolutely incredible venu

My partner and I got engaged in 2021 and started looking for venues towards the end of the year for a 2024 wedding. As soon as we started touring Selden Barns, we knew it was the one. The grounds are absolutely beautiful and so well maintained, and the fact that everything is all on one site makes it so much easier to have a good flow to the day. I worked closely with Nicki and Saorise on site who ensured over several planning meetings that the day would run smoothly. They asked me things we hadn’t even thought about such as what order will the bridesmaids go down the aisle that meant it was truly a day that my husband and I designed. On the wedding day, we literally had to do nothing besides relax and get married as Selden Barns handles everything! The staff are kind, attentive and found no request too small to incorporate. My wedding party was incredibly lucky there was not a wedding the day prior and were able to set up for the wedding the day before and the venue was so great at ensuring even that ran smoothly. For those guests and ourselves who stayed onsite overnight, the breakfast prepared by chef Andy of breakfast sandwiches, pastries, cereal and yogurts was exactly what we needed to get our energy back. He helped us all feel so welcome and connected personally with so many of the guests with his humour and conversation. Every guest I spoke to mentioned how the site was amazing, and we would definitely recommend this venue.

Married on 15/08/2024

Megan

You won’t find a better venue!

Absolutely fantastic venue. Ben our venue Coordinator was outstanding. It rained and thanks to him no one even noticed and it was a perfect day.

Married on 09/07/2024

Jennifer

A huge thank you for making our wedding day so wonderful

Hi Nicki and Saoirse

Amanda and I wanted to drop you a note to say a huge thank you for making our wedding day so wonderful. We and our guests had an amazing day and everyone commented on how smoothly everything ran and how beautiful the venue was.

Your support from visiting, booking and hosting our day was incredible and having such detailed wedding planning meetings meant there really was nothing for Amanda and I to think about on the day and we could just enjoy it all.

Sarah and Amanda

Your attention to detail was just perfect!

Nicki and Saoirse, thank you so very much for everything that you did to help us enjoy the best wedding day. Your attention to detail was just perfect, the venue was stunning, and we couldn’t have asked for anymore to make our wedding day special. Selden Barns was truly a special place to celebrate our wedding day. Thank you to all the team for making the day run exceptionally smoothly’.

Thank you again, we are truly grateful for all your support.

Amanda & Peter

30.08.2024

Amanda & Peter

A huge thank you for everything on Sunday

We just wanted to say a huge thank you for everything on Sunday, especially to Saoirse who was amazing all day!

Thank you all for all your help in the lead up, we had such a smooth day, and everything was perfect!

Thank you all so much again for such a wonderful day!

Thanks,

Jade & Grant

Highly recommend Selden Barns

I would highly recommend Selden Barns to any couple looking for a wedding venue in West Sussex. We and our guests had the most amazing day and evening at our wedding on Saturday 6 July. We met Nicky at the very beginning of our journey when she showed us around the venue and she was there with us on our special day which was wonderful, she was very kind, helpful and professional, thank you Nicky!

Debbie P. July 2024

Debbie P

Perfect for our meeting

We booked Selden Barns for our Sales Meeting and I’m so pleased we did as we were not disappointed. The room was perfect for our meeting and the grounds were stunning – what an idyllic location! I would highly recommend Selden Barns as a business venue.

Nicki P, Sales Manager, BPH Attachments - 25/05/2024

Amazing wedding venue

Selden Barns is an amazing venue, the grounds are so beautiful and it’s fantastic having the ceremony and reception all in one place. Selden is amazing regardless of the season – we got married in October and had some rain and it was still the perfect venue as there is plenty of indoor and outdoor space that is all just as lovely. We had the most incredible day, we wouldn’t have changed a thing and couldn’t have wished for it to be more perfect! All our guests had an amazing time. Having a dedicated wedding coordinator was so useful and everything went so smoothly thanks to Steph and the team who put both of us at ease at every step of the way. We both felt like we could completely enjoy the day without worrying about what was happening and where we needed to be! We would recommend Selden to anyone looking for a wedding venue!

Amy Green – 20/10/2023

Amazing venue

My husband & I eloped to Gretna Green but wanted to have a wedding reception party after to celebrate with our family & friends. Nicki and her team were absolutely brilliant, from when I initially met with her to plan, to the actual night of the party. There were so many things I hadn’t thought of, thanks to Nicki nothing was forgotten about. They couldn’t have been more helpful and accommodating. Ben was also great, he got a lot of things set up for us prior to the party and on the night made sure everything ran smoothly.if we hadn’t decided on Gretna Green then we would have had our entire wedding at Selden.

Kerry G Sept 09/09/2023

could not recommend Selden Barns enough

We got married July 2023 and we could not recommend Selden Barns enough. Our day was everything we’d dreamed of and more. Every idea we had got brought to life by the amazing wedding planners – a big shout out to Steph who was an incredible help from start to finish. The venue is so dreamy and the grounds just beautiful. If I could do it all again I’d choose Selden Barns again in a heartbeat. 100% recommend

Becky F. , married on 15/07/202

All the team at Selden barns, you’re all amazing!

Just wanted to start by apologising for my delayed email, the last few days have been crazy busy and as I lay on the sun bed in Mexico I now have the time to email everyone!

On behalf of myself and Liam we would like to say a BIG thank you for making our day truly perfect and making it all run smoothly! We both had the best day from start to finish, the venue looked beautiful inside and out and I wouldn’t have changed a thing. We had so many comments about how beautiful the venue was and that a lot of people didn’t know it was there. So I’ve told everyone to spread the word!

A few thank You’s/shoutouts I’d like to say…

Big thank you to Steph for all the phone calls and emails back and forth you’ll be glad not to hear from me again ha ha! You’ve been so helpful from start to finish and made my wedding journey smooth sailing!

Big thank you to Nicki, you made me feel so at ease from the moment I met you. So kind and welcoming, thank you for the hugs throughout the night!

And last but not least a huge thank you to Ben for completing running our day! Again, you made me feel so at ease from the get go and made our day go just as we imagined, the whole day was perfect!! Thank you for your kindness, advice and help throughout our big day and the day before.

I’ll be shouting about Selden barns from the roof tops! A general thank you to all the team at Selden barns, you’re all amazing. I will do at some point this week.

Many thanks

Mille

Mr & Mrs Jarvis

Selden pulled out all the stops on the day

Our perfect wedding day (May 2023)

Having viewed several potential Sussex venues, we very quickly settled on Selden Barns as the ideal place for our wedding. We were particularly drawn to it by the vast outside space, as well as the separate ceremony and reception rooms which gave the day a really nice flow. We also wanted somewhere that family and friends could stay overnight – so we took advantage of the onsite rooms for the night of the wedding.We really did have the best day of our lives, it went exactly as had pictured it in our minds and the team at Selden pulled out all the stops on the day (particularly Steph in our case) to make sure this was the case.We would highly recommend Selden Barns.

Matt A., married on 13/05/2023

Christmas Party

We booked Selden Barns quite late in the year for our Staff Christmas party after searching for a venue big enough to accommodate us all.

Selden recommended caterers and a DJ for us, and everything was just fabulous. The venue was perfect for us, the food was delicious, and the DJ ensured the dance floor was full all evening. The staff at Selden looked after us really well and the feedback from all our staff regarding the party has been great. A wonderful night was had by all. I would certainly recommend Selden for a wedding or party venue.

Diane

We could not recommend it enough!

My wife and I got married at Selden Barns just over a week ago now and we could not recommend it enough. For nearly two years we had the date booked and throughout that time Rachel and her team were fantastic. Rachel is knowledgeable, attentive and helpful and having her help plan the day took pretty much all of the stress out of it. On the day itself, everything could not have run smoother and that is all down to how they looked after us and our guests. On top of that excellent bedrooms for anybody staying the night we could not have had a better venue. Thank you Rachel and your team for everything, we will never forget it.

Mr & Mrs Riley

What a wonderful venue!

Our daughter and son in law got married at Selden Barnes on 10th May 2019, what a wonderful venue we had an absolutely fantastic time !nothing was to much trouble for the staff. The catering was brilliant and the flowers were stunning! We would like to thank everyone involved for a wonderful two days. We would highly recommend this venue. Anna and Nigel”

Anna H - 10th May 2019

The most perfect wedding at Selden Barns!

We had the most perfect wedding at Selden Barns! Rachel is just fabulous and takes away all the stress….nothing is too much trouble. On the day the communication between the staff was excellent, managing people and timings perfectly. We wanted a day of fun and laughter and that’s exactly what we got. The new bridal suite is perfect and truly a special room. Our guests also loved their rooms and breakfast the next day was a fun and filling experience! We didn’t look at any other venues as we knew from the moment we looked around that Selden Barns was the place for us!
Thanks so much for everything x

Holly & Michael - 26th May 2019

A massive thank you to you and your team!

Hi Rachel,
We have just started to get back to normal after our mini moon so we wanted to drop you a quick email saying a massive thank you to you and your team for making our day a huge success and the day of our dreams.
I genuinely could not have asked for more on the day or in the lead up to the wedding. Everyone of your team over at Selden was exceptional I can’t really put into words how much the effort and thought is appreciated!

Thank you again we had the perfect day.

Sarah and Daniel

We honestly had most fantastic day!

Hi Rachel

Now we are back from our honeymoon we just wanted to thank you for all that you did in the run up to, during and after the 11th. We honestly had most fantastic day and we can’t thank you and your staff enough. Nothing was too much trouble for anyone and we couldn’t have asked for anything more!

Thanks again X

Mr and Mrs Jacobs

Incredible incredible incredible!!!

Incredible incredible incredible!!! We recently got married at Selden Barns on Saturday 1st December and what an amazing day!! We had SO many compliments on how amazing the venue looked and how well organised it was.

I’m a major organised freak and both Rachel and Jo made me feel so at ease (this is unusual!!) nothing was too much trouble and I felt like I could ask anything and email a million times without feeling like I was annoying them.

Selden was the first venue we saw when choosing (I think we looked at around 6 barns) and immediately I knew it was the one, we really loved that there was a completely separate ceremony room which most barns don’t have, as well as all the really reasonably priced accommodation which is incredibly handy when all the grooms family is from up North!

All the staff including the gardeners and Selden’s chef were so unbelievably friendly and made such an impression on us all, we can’t thank you all enough for making us feel like king and queen on our special day, really could not recommend you guys enough!! Xxxx

Alice & Christie - 1st December 2018

Could not have wished for a more perfect day!

We had our wedding reception at the barns on Saturday 17th December and we could not have wished for a more perfect day. On the run-up, Rachel listened to what we wanted for our day and advised us on what would work on the day she pulled it all together to make it all run so well for us and all our guests. Simply brilliant thank you all! Xx

Nicky H - 19th December 2016

We fell in love with Selden as soon as we saw it!

We fell in love with Selden as soon as we saw it, set in the most beautiful of surroundings, with lovely staff and everything you could hope for all in one place.
Rachel (the wedding organiser) was fantastic from start to finish and couldn’t do enough for us to make sure that our day went perfectly. Thank you!!
The staff and Val (the owner) were all lovely and made sure the day went without a hitch.
We would definitely recommend this venue to anyone looking for that little slice of perfection!

Bethany R - 1st July 2017

What you did to help us was the most amazing & beautiful thing!

What you did to help us was the most amazing & beautiful thing, I really honestly can’t thank you enough, you didn’t even know Daisy but you made the final part of her journey the best ever, if she was still with us she would have been in her element!! You all felt like family on that day.

Stephanie D - 18th September 2017

The staff went above and beyond

If your thinking of booking this venue, just do it! Not only is the surroundings stunning but the staff went above and beyond to make our day run smoothly, and then there is Rachel, who was there to help with anything and everything and we can’t thank her enough, followed by a breakfast with other staying guests from our wedding the next morning which finished our whole experience off beautifully, your wedding is a special day anyway but booking this venue will make it even more fantastic! Thank you so much!

Samantha D - 10th December 2017

What an absolutely amazing job!

I would just like to Say what an absolutely Amazing job Rachel & the Staff At Selden Barns did for my Daughter’s Wedding Day a couple of Weeks ago 😁👌🏻 The Whole Day ran so smoothly & was just a Perfect Day throughout. We can’t thank you all enough. Scarlett & Luke will have such Happy Memories of that Special Day. Big thanks to Bexhill Film Company as well, who captured the Very Essence of the Day perfectly 👌🏻🙌🏻 If you were thinking of a Venue for your Wedding/special Occasion this place has it all, down to accommodation as well which was excellent! & finishing off the Weekend with the delicious 4-course Breakfast cooked by the Chef the next Morning 😁👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 Just A Perfect Ending to an Awesome Day !! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻.

Fiona M ( Brides Mother) - 24th March 2019

We had the most fabulous day

We wanted to thank you and the whole team at Selden for all the work you put into our wedding day. We had the most fabulous day and you helped it to run so smoothly.

Breakfast was delicious too!

Jenny & James - 16th March 2019

A day that we will never forget!

Sivan and I just wanted to write to so thank you so much to you and your team for Sunday. Everything went even better than we could have imagined and it is a day that we will never forget. You made it so easy from the moment that we came to view the venue for the first time so we cannot sing your praises enough.

Sivan & David - 5th May 2019